Does Being A Good Mom Mean Losing Yourself In The Process?

Anyone else done this or doing this?

​I was guilty of this myself until I realized that I was teaching them the wrong thing. It just hit me like a ton of bricks one day.

​This is what I was teaching them……That being a mom means you let yourself go physically and mentally. Being a mom means you put yourself last. Being a mom is stressful. Being a mom is not fun.

I didn’t want them to grow up and think, “forget that mom stuff, if it’s as bad as my mom made it look….count me out.”

​Once I put me back on the priority list I started to teach them differently.

Being a mom is fun! Being a mom means leading by example and I am showing them that just because I am a mom doesn’t mean I forget about me.

Some how I had it in my head that the more I sacrificed myself and let me go the better a mom I must be.

​I learned I can’t pour from an empty cup and when I was trying to all they got was leftovers. All they got was the stressed out, no fun, meaner of a mom.

I want my kids to know that being a good mom doesn’t equal losing yourself and taking yourself off the priority list.

I realized they were going to mimic the kind of mom I am with their kids. Am I perfect at this? Nope! But I have learned this very crucial lesson and I am so grateful that it was sooner rather than later.

I am not saying we should be selfish. Cause that’s just as bad as loosing ourselves.
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Find some things that work for you and make you feel good. Mine are taking care of my body with exercise and eating good. I take care of my spirit with scripture and prayer. I feed my mind PD books. This sets me up for a Great day