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Fear can be controlling and can strips us from truly loving. It breeds judgement, criticism, stress, anxiety, and a wanting to have others do things on ones own terms, and in heir own way, and timing, thus suffocating agency, and sometimes general politeness! It can also take God out of the equation, as impatience sets in, wanting to direct traffic all by oneself, sometimes even aborting the plans of God.
Love however is patient, prompts, reminds in kind ways, is long-suffering, trusts in the spirit of God to help in the desired change or transformation, and also helps to elevate and vivify the soul of man. The soul is then encouraged, motivated, even sometimes inspired to burst out of its cocoon and then to fly free in the vast space, as a butterfly flies with its new born wings, yet at times the stay in that dark cocoon may try both our tolerance, and our patience.
When one does something out of fear there is little change, yielding at times even resentment, and bitterness, being distracted while fighting a battle for ones own agency. When the fear is removed the heart will then relapse into a harden state of its former self. Love with all its power may not always win the battle for change yet it will bring the peaceful things of the spirit within ones soul. Exercising through fear never has a chance and brings torment to both the giver and to the receiver. Let us learn to love, thereby planting the seeds of change and transformation, for not only ourselves but for those we cared about, for it is God who is the great Former and Maker of our souls.
Our self loves or passions are our fear of loss of reputation, fame, vanity, profit, power, even the fear that our spouses aren't performing up to our expectations, and many others.
1John 4:18 There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love.
Alma 38:12 Use boldness, but not overbearance; and also see that ye bridle all your passions, that ye may be filled with love; see that ye refrain from idleness.